December 11, 2017 (PSA)
POTENTIAL SIGNS FOR A BAD RELATIONSHIP CHOICE…..
Does not respect your need for alone time
Tries to isolate you from family, friends, career relationships, and outside interests
Wants you to quit or change jobs/friends/relationships for him because HE is uncomfortable with them Asks you to do things you are uncomfortable doing (i.e., lying, loaning him money, sex, etc.)
Uses drugs or uses alcohol too frequently or abundantly
Has frequent unemployment or job changes, which he claims are never his fault
Wants to control your hair, dress, behavior, friends, or job
Has had multiple unsuccessful relationships
Does not tell the truth
You “accidentally” find out information you should have known about him.
Is physically, emotionally, verbally, or sexually “rough” or “weird”
Is too charming – has all the right lines and appears excessively smooth
Has a history or previous diagnosis of mental illness, especially untreated PTSD, depression, or un-medicated bipolar disorder (previously manic depression), conduct disorder or anti-social personality disorder, schizophrenia, narcissistic or borderline personality disorder, and/or unsuccessful treatment of substance use
Has a criminal record to include: recurrent speeding violations, DUI, assault on female, battery of any kind, other assaults, any sexual offense, forgery/bad checks, dead beat bad dad issues
He is inflexible and cannot change to meet a spontaneous request.
The rules are for everyone else except him.
Has problems with authority figures
EXTREMELY DANGEROUS BEHAVIORS INCLUDE:
Owns a gun
Has used weapons in prior in abusive relationships
Has threatened to kill anyone or anything or self
Hurts children or animals
Has strangled a partner
Has forced a partner to have sex
Has assaulted a pregnant woman
Assaults in front of other people
Violates Court Orders or Restraining Orders
Alcohol or drug use
Stalks anyone for any reason
Repeat offenses of this list